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Jazzy Jeff
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Posted: Thu Jul 30th, 2009 02:27 am |
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| Any unusual experiences? I have one. I have been divorced for 7 years now. The house which I had payed off and gave to the x wife, has refinanced and now has filed court action for me to pay half her mortgage. She does not have a leg to stand on, but I have to now pay a lawyer to defend myself.
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Tsalagi1
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Posted: Sun Aug 2nd, 2009 02:36 am |
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Jazzy Jeff wrote: Any unusual experiences? I have one. I have been divorced for 7 years now. The house which I had payed off and gave to the x wife, has refinanced and now has filed court action for me to pay half her mortgage. She does not have a leg to stand on, but I have to now pay a lawyer to defend myself.
man...that is one evil....person who resembles a female canine....
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Jazzy Jeff
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Posted: Wed Aug 5th, 2009 02:02 am |
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Tsalagi1 wrote: Jazzy Jeff wrote: Any unusual experiences? I have one. I have been divorced for 7 years now. The house which I had payed off and gave to the x wife, has refinanced and now has filed court action for me to pay half her mortgage. She does not have a leg to stand on, but I have to now pay a lawyer to defend myself.
man...that is one evil....person who resembles a female canine....
After meeting with my attorney today, she advised me to just pay it. It is tied in with child support. The Pa. law says that if the care giver has a mortgage or rent that exceeds 25 percent of the care giving providers income, the non care giving parent is responsible for half of the amount which exceeds 25 percent. So it will cost me $120 per month extra in my support payment. It sucks, but my attorney said I would probably lose in court. Pa is one of the worse states when it comes to divorce and child support.
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Tsalagi1
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Posted: Wed Aug 5th, 2009 01:02 pm |
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Jazzy Jeff wrote: Tsalagi1 wrote: Jazzy Jeff wrote: Any unusual experiences? I have one. I have been divorced for 7 years now. The house which I had payed off and gave to the x wife, has refinanced and now has filed court action for me to pay half her mortgage. She does not have a leg to stand on, but I have to now pay a lawyer to defend myself.
man...that is one evil....person who resembles a female canine....
After meeting with my attorney today, she advised me to just pay it. It is tied in with child support. The Pa. law says that if the care giver has a mortgage or rent that exceeds 25 percent of the care giving providers income, the non care giving parent is responsible for half of the amount which exceeds 25 percent. So it will cost me $120 per month extra in my support payment. It sucks, but my attorney said I would probably lose in court. Pa is one of the worse states when it comes to divorce and child support.
No getting around it my friend..you got bent over and got hammered by her.
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SelenaLuna
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Posted: Thu Aug 6th, 2009 05:33 pm |
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| yes, you got screwed but at least you can stand straight and look yourself in the mirror. And $120 isn't a whole lot. And those kids do grow up someday and you can say you always were there and took care of them, even paying extra. Kids are then less scarred and more loved. Go with the silver lining in this cloud.
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JP
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Posted: Tue Aug 11th, 2009 08:20 am |
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Posted: Wed Aug 12th, 2009 06:12 am |
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| Divorce is simply a messy thing, no matter how carefully it's done.
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SelenaLuna
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Posted: Thu Aug 13th, 2009 09:32 pm |
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When I found out my hubby was having an affair I went to the bank and took out half of the money from our joint bank account - $3700 - which was all I had plus two credit cards in my own name, no savings, no job, no way to pay my bills, rent, or even food. I paid a lawyer with most of it. My hubby told everyone at his work that would listen that I took ALL the money we had. He went to the bank and tried to get it back but fortunately I took it out in cash. (let that be a lesson)
Suddenly, HE was the one who was screwed and when we stayed together and I visited his workplace, they all looked at ME like I was going to go postal at any minute. One dear friend actually stayed by my side the whole time I was there to see that nobody said or did anything while I was there. He sat in the waiting room with me and walked me to the bathroom, even. Yes, divorces/marriage are messy and there are always two sides.
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Jazzy Jeff
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Posted: Thu Aug 13th, 2009 10:12 pm |
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SelenaLuna wrote: When I found out my hubby was having an affair I went to the bank and took out half of the money from our joint bank account - $3700 - which was all I had plus two credit cards in my own name, no savings, no job, no way to pay my bills, rent, or even food. I paid a lawyer with most of it. My hubby told everyone at his work that would listen that I took ALL the money we had. He went to the bank and tried to get it back but fortunately I took it out in cash. (let that be a lesson)
Suddenly, HE was the one who was screwed and when we stayed together and I visited his workplace, they all looked at ME like I was going to go postal at any minute. One dear friend actually stayed by my side the whole time I was there to see that nobody said or did anything while I was there. He sat in the waiting room with me and walked me to the bathroom, even. Yes, divorces/marriage are messy and there are always two sides.
It was good that you only took half, many would take it all. I think the worst in divorce is the scumbag lawyers, that really do not care what they get for you, only what they will get themselves. I have heard horror stories where attorneys will tell the women to immediately draw out all joint assets, than they freeze whats left so the man can not even get a hold of enough cash to retain a lawyer. My divorce went pretty well, neither of us retained a lawyer, we went to a 3rd party mediator. I gave her the house and half of our liquid cash, I kept all of my stocks and 401K.
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jake58
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Posted: Sat Aug 15th, 2009 03:37 pm |
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| You almost wonder why people get married anymore, when 50% of them result in this kind of mess
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wilmywood8455
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Posted: Sun Aug 16th, 2009 09:57 am |
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Jazzy Jeff wrote: After meeting with my attorney today, she advised me to just pay it.
Good advice. I had a similar situation with my ex a few years ago; she could or would not make any effort to keep the kids' medical bills straight, and would very often be very late getting them to me and could not do the math, so we were always at odds over whether I owed her this $55 or that $35.
Finally, after she developed what she thought was $750 I owed over a couple of years, I just refused to play along any more. This was 8 years ago, and, knowing I had another 9 years to deal with this crap, I refused to pay it and to pay anything in the future that was not crystal clear, on time and properly accounted for. My attorney told me at the time to just pay it, that even though I was right, it would cost me much more in the end to argue about it. Silly me, I said no.
Well, just this past spring it was finally resolved after 3 judges, 4 accountants and maybe around $25,000 total laid out by us both for accountants and attorneys. The judge said even though I was right, I should pay half of it 'in the best interest of the children'.
Swallow the pride, pay the money and get on with life.Last edited on Sun Aug 16th, 2009 09:59 am by wilmywood8455
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wilmywood8455
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Posted: Sun Aug 16th, 2009 10:02 am |
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mb wrote: Divorce is simply a messy thing, no matter how carefully it's done.
Amen.
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Jazzy Jeff
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Posted: Sun Aug 16th, 2009 04:24 pm |
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jake58 wrote: You almost wonder why people get married anymore, when 50% of them result in this kind of mess
I use to coach a girl in basketball that recently graduated from law school. She told me last night that she will take her bar exam in NJ, specializing in divorce, in anticipation of same sex marriage. She claims divorce lawyers in NJ will make a fortune.
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jake58
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Posted: Mon Aug 17th, 2009 01:46 am |
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Jazzy Jeff wrote: jake58 wrote: You almost wonder why people get married anymore, when 50% of them result in this kind of mess
I use to coach a girl in basketball that recently graduated from law school. She told me last night that she will take her bar exam in NJ, specializing in divorce, in anticipation of same sex marriage. She claims divorce lawyers in NJ will make a fortune.
I hadn't thought of it but she's probably right...
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Radicalone
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Posted: Tue Aug 18th, 2009 06:58 am |
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| Well, as the words say; two shall become one. So in what was written I would come to believe both are good liars. As they say, when it comes to divorce and violence both make good liars. However someone wants read that.
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Posted: Tue Aug 18th, 2009 07:04 am |
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| What did she refinance a crack house? Or the social worker that goes with the crack house?
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Posted: Tue Aug 18th, 2009 01:31 pm |
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don't know if anyone would find this relevant but John Cleese just finalized a divorce settlement with his 3rd wife(of 16 years)... in it, the 70 year old Cleese will be left with less than she, who added virtually nothing financially to the relationship.
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/newstopics/celebritynews/6043628/John-Cleese-in-12-million-divorce-settlement.html
Cleese - "I got off lightly. Think of what I'd have had to pay Alyce if she had contributed anything to the relationship."
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CloudThatWonders
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Posted: Mon Sep 21st, 2009 11:40 pm |
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jake58 wrote: don't know if anyone would find this relevant but John Cleese just finalized a divorce settlement with his 3rd wife(of 16 years)... in it, the 70 year old Cleese will be left with less than she, who added virtually nothing financially to the relationship.
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/newstopics/celebritynews/6043628/John-Cleese-in-12-million-divorce-settlement.html
Cleese - "I got off lightly. Think of what I'd have had to pay Alyce if she had contributed anything to the relationship."
Good O'l John, at least he is free to make a movie and spend his own cash & buy a younger thief.
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CloudThatWonders
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Posted: Tue Sep 22nd, 2009 02:19 pm |
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CloudThatWonders wrote: jake58 wrote: don't know if anyone would find this relevant but John Cleese just finalized a divorce settlement with his 3rd wife(of 16 years)... in it, the 70 year old Cleese will be left with less than she, who added virtually nothing financially to the relationship.
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/newstopics/celebritynews/6043628/John-Cleese-in-12-million-divorce-settlement.html
Cleese - "I got off lightly. Think of what I'd have had to pay Alyce if she had contributed anything to the relationship."
Good O'l John, at least he is free to make a movie and spend his own cash & buy a younger thief.
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